If you are in a relationship with someone, no matter whether you are married or whether you have only just started dating them, it is important that you are able to trust someone. However, it can often be confusing to know what is genuinely a sign that you can’t trust you partner, and what is simply our mind running away with us. This blog will give you some great ways you can tell whether your partner is untrustworthy, and give you key things to look out for.
They cancel plans with no notice
Anyone can cancel a plan because something has come up that they weren’t expecting, but if this is something that happens on a regular basis, it should be a cause for concern. It is even more worrying if your partner cannot give you a plausible reason for cancelling the plans, as this means that they might be hiding something from you.
They forget to tell you something
We often find out small things about our partner that we wished they’d told us – for example if they’d broken our favourite mug or forgotten to do something we’d asked, but if the omissions are bigger than that, for example if they had seen your mutual female friend a few times without you, then you may be right to worry about exactly why they had felt the need to hide the truth. Take a look at their face when you’re asking them about it. If they look shifty, you may wish to think about why.
They cut calls when they see you coming
If your partner is on the phone a lot, but cuts the call when you’re around, you should start to wonder why they can’t continue the conversation while you’re there. If they can’t give you a good answer for this then you may be right to be suspicious, because talking on the phone with somebody is often what people will do when they are having an affair, or discussing other situations that they don’t want you to find out about.
They change their story
If somebody is telling you the truth, then there should never be any difference in the version of events that they give you each time you ask. So, if there is something that you think they’re lying about, it is a good idea to ask, as you can then listen to the story again and listen out for anything that is different to the first time they told you. Even someone who has had a lot of practice at telling lies can slip up sometimes, as nobody is perfect enough to tell a story exactly the same way if they are making it up.
Ultimately, only you can make the decision about whether you trust your partner, but the points above should help you to look for warning signs. The fact that you’re on this page at all shows that you have some doubts – so you should certainly do your best to consider why this might be.